Why Did I Get Married

A couple of girlfriends I've had since high school took me out to celebrate my birthday. We did lunch and treated ourselves to Tyler Perry's new movie. I must honestly say that I thoroughly enjoyed the movie. I haven't read any reviews of the movie so I don't know what everyone else is saying but I know that the movie actually made me laugh, cry, and laugh so hard that I started crying again. Relatively speaking the movie was well made, some of the acting was a little awkward (Janet Jackson and Malik Yorba's emotional epiphany) but for the most part it was great. Hat's off to Denise Boutte, her alcohol inspired tirades carried the movie and provided me with some much needed comic relief. I liken myself to Janet Jackson's character, the mental health professional who can't seem to stop dispensing unheeded, much needed free therapy to my family and friends. The movie gave a good overall perspective on the reality of marriage, faithful spouses, unfaithful spouses, committed husbands, abusive husbands, selfless wives, and selfish wives. Once thing is certain no marriage is perfect and it takes a great deal of work, commitment, and much prayer to make it work. I thank God for my fourteen years of wedded bliss. It has not been easy but I wouldn't trade my hubby for anything in this world. This movie and the ensuing conversation with my girlfriends reminded me that one should not take a good relationship for granted and should actively work to keep fire simmering. A word to the wise. I'm going to try to remember this more over the next few weeks and try not to focus exclusively on the little petty things that I am not getting and focus more on all the wonderful aspects of my husband that I do have. In the movie Janet's character, a psychologist, asked her girlfriends to evaluate their relationship by making a list of the pros and the cons. If the pros outweigh the cons then you should do whatever it takes to maintain your relationship. The pros of my marriage definitely outweigh the cons so I've got some work to do.